Use the force . . .
June 23, 2010
I will never forget doing this exercise with a woman who worked with a team of older, male managers. She decided she wanted to take charge a bit more so decided to think of Sigourney Weaver when she needed strength in meetings. I said I thought that was a great idea as Sigourney was clearly a talented, well respected and powerful woman in Hollywood. She looked at me and said Oh no – I mean her playing Ripley in Alien. With a big gun.
Gulp!
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(3) What I Learned About Having No Confidence
June 20, 2010
I once took Carol Vorderman to a Curry’s electrical shop.
She was very effective.
Of course it wasn’t actually Carol. Just a little NLP trick.
I don’t know where I’d lost my confidence along the way that day, but I found myself needing service in a Curry electrical shop yet did not have the courage to approach one of the staff. Yeah I know, it doesn’t sound like bolshie me at all. But as I always try to remember: I am me now, but I might be a very different me another day. Life affects us all and none of us are immune to feeling jaded or to experience a lack of confidence at times. The trick is to notice when it’s happening and realise it doesn’t define you. I didn’t suddenly become someone who had low confidence, I was just experiencing an unconfident moment. With the tricks I now know I will never slide into the assumption that any of my character traits are anything other than improvable. (If I want to ‘improve’ them that is!)
And in Curry’s I did want to improve my confidence level. So I invited Carol to help me out.
As I was stood there, being ignored in the aisles, I imagined what Carol would do. Now, let me explain why Carol is my person of choice in this situation. To me, she embodies a confident, no nonsense, assertive, but above all else a nice person. I wanted to be her and know what to do in Curry’s. Yeah, you may laugh, but heed the power of Carol should you ever need to manifest her in your own life!
When I stated to ‘channel’ Carol I began to feel very different and knew immediately what to do next. And without thinking, just went and did it. Nothing dramatic mind. Just strode up to two indifferent shop assistants having a nice chat behind the counter and asked one of the to show me a demo of a piece of equipment I was thinking of buying. Some thirty minutes later me and Carol had heard all the hi-fis in the place and decided not to purchase one. I have no doubt that had Carol not been with me that day I might have plucked up enough courage to ask to see one CD player and then be talked into buying it by a persistent assistant!
Funnily enough, I’ve needed to use Carol less and less over the years until I almost have become that confident assertive person that I needed her to be for me. So, to follow that logical assumption through; one could acquire all the ‘desirable’ attributes one sees in others by simply modelling them in this way.
Let me know how it works for you . . .
